I had such a whirlwind of emotions and thoughts reading this article! It takes such an incredible amount of self-reflection, awareness, vulnerability, courage, pinch of humour and grit to a) work through what you have worked through and b) share it in such a cohesive, compelling and relatable story.
I had such a whirlwind of emotions and thoughts reading this article! It takes such an incredible amount of self-reflection, awareness, vulnerability, courage, pinch of humour and grit to a) work through what you have worked through and b) share it in such a cohesive, compelling and relatable story.
Kudos to your professor and I am just so glad your soul picked up his very special nudge that initiated the bond between the two of you.
I am always fascinated how the coping mechanisms of your childhood develop (and yes, everyone has some no matter how hard the parents tried to do their best in their own abilities). Though my reasons, triggers and mechanisms are slightly different, I see myself in a lot of the things you mentioned and I think your story might just has been another puzzle piece in connecting some dots about the way we function how we function - or like you beautifully describe it: why sometimes we respond in different ways to the world and people around us then others.
I can confirm that talking to trusted people about the scenarios in which we feel super insecure about how another person might see us or suddenly feel resentment and guilt can have a massive impact on not only dealing with this very specific moment but also recalibrating some of our inner system to slowly start responding differently. It takes time though, like a muscle you train. And sometimes, you have a really good training session and another time, you end up slightly deranged underneath the barbell. But it’s worth it!
Interestingly, I did a lot of daydreaming like you did. I would escape in it while listening to music during car and bus rides or before falling asleep.
Although I learned over the years that these daydreams were part of coping mechanisms, too, I think a certain part in me still misses them up to today. Your post just reconfirmed that it’s actually a sign of healing and change that I no longer have to rely on them! Thanks, Nur!
Thanks for the very rich feedback, Fabienne. I always love hearing your opinions on my works because I feel like you've been through similar, albeit different, situations!
I wrote this Ishita earlier but the discovery that sharing our stories, the embarrassing and all, and putting it out there really feels like it helps lessen the hold it has over us
I had such a whirlwind of emotions and thoughts reading this article! It takes such an incredible amount of self-reflection, awareness, vulnerability, courage, pinch of humour and grit to a) work through what you have worked through and b) share it in such a cohesive, compelling and relatable story.
Kudos to your professor and I am just so glad your soul picked up his very special nudge that initiated the bond between the two of you.
I am always fascinated how the coping mechanisms of your childhood develop (and yes, everyone has some no matter how hard the parents tried to do their best in their own abilities). Though my reasons, triggers and mechanisms are slightly different, I see myself in a lot of the things you mentioned and I think your story might just has been another puzzle piece in connecting some dots about the way we function how we function - or like you beautifully describe it: why sometimes we respond in different ways to the world and people around us then others.
I can confirm that talking to trusted people about the scenarios in which we feel super insecure about how another person might see us or suddenly feel resentment and guilt can have a massive impact on not only dealing with this very specific moment but also recalibrating some of our inner system to slowly start responding differently. It takes time though, like a muscle you train. And sometimes, you have a really good training session and another time, you end up slightly deranged underneath the barbell. But it’s worth it!
Interestingly, I did a lot of daydreaming like you did. I would escape in it while listening to music during car and bus rides or before falling asleep.
Although I learned over the years that these daydreams were part of coping mechanisms, too, I think a certain part in me still misses them up to today. Your post just reconfirmed that it’s actually a sign of healing and change that I no longer have to rely on them! Thanks, Nur!
Thanks for the very rich feedback, Fabienne. I always love hearing your opinions on my works because I feel like you've been through similar, albeit different, situations!
I wrote this Ishita earlier but the discovery that sharing our stories, the embarrassing and all, and putting it out there really feels like it helps lessen the hold it has over us