Hey Nur, I missed seeing your posts. Thanks again for warning me about the Keanu Reeves imposter. About ‘languishing’… I’ve been recovering from PTSD & cPTSD, and it was BAD to ‘languish’… but I have found that I have a personality type where if I allow myself to ‘languish’ while unencumbered by other’s ‘needs’ of me — I am quite amazingly creative & great at problem solving!! I find when I’m allowed to let my mind go, while languishing, my technical brain loves to work out problems, and I am actually QUITE productive!! I’m not sure if it is only me, but that is my experience. 👍 Thanks for your post.
That's a beautiful take away, Whitney, thanks for sharing. I'm also recovering from cPTSD and have been doing a deep dive on it for my own health and edification but also for essays in the future. I think you'll really enjoy them!
languishing reminds me so much of the feelings I had in medical school. take an exam, don't do as well as you hoped....languish. work hard, miss important family/friend events, see your 20-something friends have a ton of fun with their new money...languish. i think i had the same approach as you, your line of "I’m neither battling intense pain and lethargy in depression" resonated, i knew at some point the languishing would end as I was still working my ass off and I knew better times would come. maybe the hope of better times is what gets people through that. I hope it does for you Nur. I appreciate your honesty.
Thank you for sharing your story with me my friend. It is always refreshing to see how many people can relate to feelings that we might take to be solely a ‘me’ problem.
I'm just bloody glad to have some of your wonderful self expressed here in Substack land. I think I am a bit like you in the sense that languishing time seems to be the start of creativity time. Stuff bubbles up because I am not in "doer" land. I think you are a gem Nur.🙏🏼
If I’m ever feeling doubt, I’m just going to read everything you’ve commented on my essays. You are even more of a gem than I my friend and you are very appreciated
Looking forward to seeing what you do next, Nur! I was off for a couple months too, considering my direction on Substack and posting cat pics 😄 I’d say I was languishing a bit. It’s definitely difficult to self motivate at times.
I use the term melancholy to describe my state between flourishing and depression. It’s a dark view of my world where I am less productive, uncaring, and generally feeling of little worth. But it’s not based on reality.
I think it depends. In the past, melancholy was pretty much the word used for depression. Nowadays, I definitely associate it more with languishing or ‘feeling down’, rather than the intensity of the depression feeling.
These are important musings.
Thank you for saying so, sir.
Hey Nur, I missed seeing your posts. Thanks again for warning me about the Keanu Reeves imposter. About ‘languishing’… I’ve been recovering from PTSD & cPTSD, and it was BAD to ‘languish’… but I have found that I have a personality type where if I allow myself to ‘languish’ while unencumbered by other’s ‘needs’ of me — I am quite amazingly creative & great at problem solving!! I find when I’m allowed to let my mind go, while languishing, my technical brain loves to work out problems, and I am actually QUITE productive!! I’m not sure if it is only me, but that is my experience. 👍 Thanks for your post.
That's a beautiful take away, Whitney, thanks for sharing. I'm also recovering from cPTSD and have been doing a deep dive on it for my own health and edification but also for essays in the future. I think you'll really enjoy them!
languishing reminds me so much of the feelings I had in medical school. take an exam, don't do as well as you hoped....languish. work hard, miss important family/friend events, see your 20-something friends have a ton of fun with their new money...languish. i think i had the same approach as you, your line of "I’m neither battling intense pain and lethargy in depression" resonated, i knew at some point the languishing would end as I was still working my ass off and I knew better times would come. maybe the hope of better times is what gets people through that. I hope it does for you Nur. I appreciate your honesty.
Thank you for sharing your story with me my friend. It is always refreshing to see how many people can relate to feelings that we might take to be solely a ‘me’ problem.
Agree with John Mitchell's comment. Thank you for this one, Mr. Nada.
Thank you my friend. Much appreciated
I'm just bloody glad to have some of your wonderful self expressed here in Substack land. I think I am a bit like you in the sense that languishing time seems to be the start of creativity time. Stuff bubbles up because I am not in "doer" land. I think you are a gem Nur.🙏🏼
If I’m ever feeling doubt, I’m just going to read everything you’ve commented on my essays. You are even more of a gem than I my friend and you are very appreciated
🙏🏼❤️
Looking forward to seeing what you do next, Nur! I was off for a couple months too, considering my direction on Substack and posting cat pics 😄 I’d say I was languishing a bit. It’s definitely difficult to self motivate at times.
Thanks brother. Now that you’re back, I have to be, too. It’s just how it works
For sure! 😄
I use the term melancholy to describe my state between flourishing and depression. It’s a dark view of my world where I am less productive, uncaring, and generally feeling of little worth. But it’s not based on reality.
I wonder if that’s the same as your languishing?
I think it depends. In the past, melancholy was pretty much the word used for depression. Nowadays, I definitely associate it more with languishing or ‘feeling down’, rather than the intensity of the depression feeling.
That’s how I look at it. Melancholy is more of a worldview. It is always in the background, ready to come forth when one’s resilience is low.
Thanks for sharing that story of your dad with us. And, if all you do is post pictures of your dog then that's fine. It's a cute dog anyway 😉