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🌟🌟Taylor Cecelia Brook🌟🌟's avatar

I wrote a lot in my re-stack but I wanted to drop something a tad bit more personal here :)

The part where you talked about how you are worried you will traumatize your children...

I have some really shitty news for you... no matter HOW MUCH work you do on yourself, you will probably have a moment where you "relapse". Even worse, a lot of things that can impact your child's well being can happen in the womb where you have ZERO control.

This is a topic my therapist and I have discussed in stupid amounts of detail. And I've finally come to terms with the fact that:

A. I can't be perfect all the time, but I can be consistent

B. I had zero knowledge of my issues and the challenges of being hella depressed while pregnant would have on my 2nd child.

C. Our kids give us WAY more grace than we think.

But I will also point out that even if you snap, lose your temper, go crazy, say stupid shit... you are already MUCH different than the environment you were raised in. I bet you your parents never apologized when they fucked up (if they even admitted it). But we will. I do constantly. I own up to my mistakes and show my children what it means to properly apologize. Showing them that you can fuck up and that doesn't make you a bad human.

This teaches compassion, kindness, humility, and LOVE. They way WE love/will love our children is so drastically different than the way we were "loved" as children.

This is one measure of success you should have no fear in.

Go jump on tinder and maybe you'll find your girl... that's how I put a spell on my man... woops

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Ian Haycroft's avatar

That you write about your journey (and the pizza sabotage) so wonderfully is a joy and a hope. Thanks Nur. I also just want to agree with Taylor's comment. The fact that you are worried about traumatising your kids (why do Americans always misspell traumatise 🙂) is probably the reason you won't...or at least...no more than their path calls them to navigate. It is the nature of being a parent that your children will need to learn how to forgive you, for your mistakes...or should I say...for being human.

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